Self Esteem
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Self Esteem? Whom do you want to please, the world [sin], selfishness [sin], RELIGIOUS WORKS [sin] or SEEKing TO GIVE GLORY TO God in the power of Holiness in Christ
? Whose heart are you running after, seeking to please, you, men or Jesus Christ? What Glory and honor are you seeking, yours or admiration of religion or the world or be found in faith in Jesus Christ being curcified with Him?

Do we believe that Christ has come to give us self esteem in our lives to think highly of our selves in this world? If you do then you are deceived. Self esteem is selfishness, fleshly wisdom, vanity, and pride. It’s the beginning of a love for this world and its wisdom, doctrines and pleasures of lust. God isn’t looking for the next teen idol, etc! Let’s see “what saith the scriptures”.


Matthew 11:25  At that time Jesus answered and said, I thank thee, O Father, Lord of heaven and earth, because thou hast hid these things from the wise and prudent, and hast revealed them unto babes.


Proverbs 8:13  The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate.

Proverbs 16:18  Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall.

(Sometimes immediate or It may take all of ones life and even unto death to fall!)


2 Chronicles 7:14  If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

2 Chronicles 34:27  Because thine heart was tender, and thou didst humble thyself before God, when thou heardest his words against this place, and against the inhabitants thereof, and humbledst thyself before me, and didst rend thy clothes, and weep before me; I have even heard thee also, saith the LORD.

Psalms 10:17  LORD, thou hast heard the desire of the humble: thou wilt prepare their heart, thou wilt cause thine ear to hear:

Proverbs 16:19  Better it is to be of an humble spirit with the lowly, than to divide the spoil with the proud.


[Self esteem is pride which means one is looking to be lifted up and applauded to be the center of attention so they can have mankind’s admiration for a job well done. That is sin and lust of this world. Luke 17:9   Doth he thank that servant because he did the things that were commanded him? I trow [think] not. ]

Luke 6:33-34  And if ye do good to them which do good to you, what thank have ye? for sinners also do even the same. And if ye lend to them of whom ye hope to receive, what thank have ye? for sinners also lend to sinners, to receive as much again. [God does well to you then you will serve Him? What if He doesn’t reciprocate your praise and worship immediately or as you had hoped and still is the God who punishes sin and knows best?]

Romans 12:1  I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

Proverbs 29:23  A man's pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit.

Isaiah 57:15  For thus saith the high and lofty One that inhabiteth eternity, whose name is Holy; I dwell in the high and holy place, with him also that is of a contrite and humble spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble, and to revive the heart of the contrite ones.

Micah 6:8  He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?

Isaiah 66:2  … but to this man will I look, even to him that is poor and of a contrite spirit, and trembleth at my word.

Psalms 34:18  The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.

Psalms 51:17  The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.


Jeremiah 44:10  They are not humbled even unto this day, neither have they feared, nor walked in my law, nor in my statutes, that I set before you and before your fathers.


Matthew 5:3-13  Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth. Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled. Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God. Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.  Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you. Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.

[Have we seen any self esteem promised yet of God?]


Matthew 6:24  No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God [righteousness and His word] and mammon. [ways of the fleshly sensual world]

Matthew 6:21  For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

[impossible to serve two masters at the same time in your heart. Either one takes all of your being and attention to serve one or the other. Self esteem or humbled before God to obey Him making Him your life not selfishness-self esteem.]


Lets go on!
Matthew 6:33-34  But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof. Romans 14:17  For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink [flesh, lust, and self esteem]; but [God’s] righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.


John 12:43  For they loved the praise of men more than the praise of God. [?How about you?] [God knows your heart and you can’t fool Him.]


John 12:48  He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my words, hath one that judgeth him: the word that I have spoken, the same shall judge him in the last day.

John 6:29  Jesus answered and said unto them, This is the work of God, that ye believe on him whom he hath sent. [Giving up your life and quest for praise of men and to feel good about yourself.]

John 12:24-26  Verily, verily, I say unto you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit. He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal. If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honour.

[Ohhh, this sounds like self esteem? I don’t think so!]


Matthew 11:28-30  Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls, for my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.


Philippians 2:3  Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Philippians 2:6-8  [Jesus] Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. 

Philippians 2:5   Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:

Philippians 2:9  Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name:


Philippians 1:21  For to me to live is Christ, and to die [especially now, today, to self giving up our daily life for Christ to be with Him at our death] is gain.

John 3:30  He must increase, but I must decrease.

[Self esteem gone out the window!]


Matthew 12:50  For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.

Matthew 10:38-39  And he that taketh not his cross [seeks after self esteem], and [does not]  followeth after me, is not worthy of me. He that findeth his life [self esteem] shall lose it: and he that loseth his life [self esteem] for my sake shall find it.


1 Corinthians 1:19-21  For it is written, I will destroy the wisdom of the wise, and will bring to nothing the understanding of the prudent. Where is the wise? where is the scribe? where is the disputer of this world? Hath not God made foolish the wisdom of this world? For after that, in the wisdom of God the world by wisdom knew not God, it pleased God by the foolishness of preaching to save them that believe.

1 Corinthians 1:24  But unto them which are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God, and the wisdom of God.


1 Corinthians 1:25-29  Because the foolishness of God is wiser than men; and the weakness of God is stronger than men. For ye see your calling, brethren, how that not many wise men after the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble, are called: But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty; And base things of the world, and things which are despised, hath God chosen, yea, and things which are not, to bring to nought things that are: That no flesh should glory in his presence.

[Oh again we see self esteem, a lifting up of oneself, in the flesh, to be revered of all, as the purpose and plan of God for a believer?] [ I don’t think so!]


1 Corinthians 1:30-31  But of him are ye in Christ Jesus [a believer who has died in Christ, the old man being dead, to remain in Him without sinning], who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption: That, according as it is written, He that glorieth, let him glory in the Lord. [not in self esteem or praise of men]

1 Corinthians 13:4-7  Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,  Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;  Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.


1 Corinthians 8:2-3  And if any man think that he knoweth any thing, he knoweth nothing yet as he ought to know. But if any man love God, the same is known of him.

Romans 8:1  There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

Romans 8:5  For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.

Romans 8:6-8  For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.  Because the carnal mind is enmity against God: for it is not subject to the law of God, neither indeed can be.  So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.

Romans 8:12-14  Therefore, brethren, we are debtors, not to the flesh, to live after the flesh. For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live. For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.


Galatians 2:20-21  I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. I do not frustrate the grace of God: for if righteousness come by the law [self esteem], then Christ is dead [died] in vain.

[If we, the believers, are dead in Christ how can we be looking for self esteem of the flesh and lust and figure the gospel is to lift us up and give us praise among men. The two are opposites.]


1 Corinthians 2:2  For I determined not to know any thing among you, save Jesus Christ, and him crucified. [persons are dead to the old man and living in Christ and His word]

1 Corinthians 2:5  That your faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of God. [Christ and His word]

1 Corinthians 3:18  Let no man deceive himself. If any man among you seemeth to be wise in this world, let him become a fool [humbled, repentant], that he may be wise [living in Christ and His word, dead to the quest of self esteem-sin].

                                           "The just shall live by faith."

Philemon 1:6  That the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in you in Christ Jesus. [notice its not self esteem but its what Christ is and has done for us out of love to be in Holiness as we humbly walk in spirit and in truth. This is Godly esteeming of each and every believer.]


1 Thessalonians 5:19  Quench not the Spirit. [The Holy Ghost in you by sin of self esteem and pride conforming to men and systems rather than faith following Christ.] 

One of the results of “harlot religion and the world’s wisdom is the word “conform”.

We are taught to conform from youth. Some are stronger and more courageous to stand for what they believe and are taught breaking that “bond” known as “fleshly conformity”. As Christians we are to conform to the image of Christ obeying His word, and Him, and do things in decency and in order but as He leads not what men and women tell us to do or dictate to us. We need to be of good courage and stand on the word God and be lead of His spirit on what we are honestly and sincerely convinced of what He has show me, or you, personally until He refines it.


We are going to be accountable to God for what we believe and act on not to men and women no matter who they are. We are to be meek [teachable] always and humbly walking with our Father in Heaven to seek His truth to know Him and Christ and to be a servant to others, more mindful of them than ourselves. As we study and do His word, out of an honest and sincere heart to follow Christ, we have a measuring guide to keep us in love and in order as we wait patiently on the Lord. We are to obey the Lord, giving up our life [fear], and not men when it comes to our following Him, at all costs. If we make a mistake out of sincerity God can and will correct us guiding us to the truth. We are never to be prideful and arrogant thinking we have all the truth for all that we have gained in Christ is of God and His mercy to bear witness of Christ in us to the world. It isn’t ours for personal gain and pride, which is sin. Israel wanted a king over them to be like other nations and not be solely lead of God. Is that the way it is for you the believer today quenching the Holy Ghost in you being in Christ and always afraid to stand on what God and His truth has shown you, having a fear of man, looking at men and women-conformity? Are you afraid you are wrong?


If you are honest and sincere in stepping out in faith to glorify God He will show you and make it right at the time. He is your Father! Leader! Act on the light of God that has been given you and what He is calling you to do and say! Don’t hesitate! Glorify God and His Christ by obedience and love. The only absolute conformity is spiritual to be like Christ obeying His word, seeking His truth, and not fleshly to be ruled and lorded over of men and women. Sometimes even true Christian men and women have a tendency to lord it over others in truth or deed which shouldn’t be. We need to be careful not to lord it over others but just speak what God has given to me and allowed me to see and walk in of His truth and allow others to walk as God has shown them. Christ is the Lord. Conformity can be sin when allowed to usurp the truth of God and the leading of the Holy Ghost.


Ephesians 4:30  And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.

James 5:9  Grudge not one against another, brethren, lest ye be condemned: behold, the judge standeth before the door.